There are 2 behaviours you will never see any successful people have.
And these are behaviours which are becoming increasingly prevalent in today's world to the point where faith in future generations is being eroded.
I've read countless biographies of people considered to have achieved a high level of success in life.
Yes, for some, success took the form of monetary success and stature, while for others, success came in the form of inspiring millions of people towards a better life.
From Abraham Lincoln to Martin Luther King.
From Mother Theresa to Nelson Mandela.
From Bill Gates to Elon Musk.
From Steve Jobs to Jeff Bezos.
From Arnold Schwarzenegger to Sheikh Mohammed.
From Oprah Winfrey to Condoleeza Rice.
From Colin Powell to Ghandi.
All of these "successful" people battled the odds.
They braved challenges and fought against losing odds.
They defied expectations and picked themselves up after countless falls.
They made thousands of mistakes, and learned from them.
But there are 2 things none of these people did not do:
- They NEVER developed a SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT.
- They NEVER BLAMED OTHERS for their failures.
What is a "Sense of Entitlement"?
It's when you believe you are "owed" something.
It doesn't matter what you did or didn't do: if you want to develop a strong mindset for success, you need to anchor your beliefs to a strong foundation:
You are the master of your own fate.
Your government does not "owe" you anything.
Your boss does not "owe" you anything.
Your family does not "owe" you anything.
You work hard. You work smart. You get what you deserve.
Sometimes you work hard and smart and not get what you deserve... that's nature, that's life. You reset, analyse, adjust and try again, and again, and again, until you do get what you're looking for, and it won't be because someone "owes you" anything.
Never EVER allow yourself to feel entitled!
When Steve Jobs was fired from Apple, he didn't go around launching PR campaigns against his "enemies". He started a new company and continued to pursue his passion and to seek success.
When Colin Powell saw his spectacular career take a nosedive after being given false information to present to the UN about weapons of mass destruction in Iraq, leading to the invasion of Iraq by the US, he didn't write a book blasting the CIA and blaming others for his mistakes. He said that "I should have done my homework independently".
Thinking that there are aspects of your life outside your control is a "choice".
There is ALWAYS a way for you to regain control of every single aspect of your life.
You colleague in the office distracts you with his loud phone conversations? Reason with him. That doesn't work? Use earphones. Not allowed? Use earplugs. That doesn't work? Take your important work to the coffee shop. Find a way and don't blame your colleague, because, at the end of the day, it won't matter: you still wouldn't have done your job, and blaming someone else isn't going to get you paid.
You don't gain respect in the world by blaming others for your failures (and we all fail, thousands of times, that's how we learn).
You gain respect by learning from those failures, knowing what to do differently next time around.